Forgiveness can be defined as a way of ceasing to feel resentment, anger, bitterness, animosity, malice or hatred against an offender known as a law breaker, a wrong doer, a criminal, a low life or even a violator. It is hard to forgive someone who has crossed the line.
Ø Someone who has taken something very valuable and personal away from you without your permission or mutual consent.
Ø Someone who has abused you physically and/or mentally.
Ø Someone who has talked about you and scandalized your name.
Why should you forgive them when you were the one who was victimized?
You must forgive them, because the Bible says in Colossians 3:12-13 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and be loved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Although you have been victimized, you are not a victim. You are an overcomer, and the elect of God.
As a living witness, I know that it takes time for old wounds to heal. There are still some areas in my life where I am going through the healing process.
In order to experience the peace of God, which passeth all understanding through forgiveness, we must be able to pardon our offenders. We must get to a place where we are excusing an offense, a crime, a transgression, a fault, or even a sin without demanding a penalty.
In other words, although I have forgiven my offenders, I have not forgotten what has happened. But instead of seeking revenge – wanting them to feel the same hurt I have been feeling for years or even wanting someone to say, “I’m sorry” for the wrong they have done – I just turned it over to Jesus.
James 1:20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.